Diary of a sex blogger

We live in an age where virtually anyone can become an ‘internet sensation’ and as we all know, sex sells. The internet has provided endless possibilities for all manner of discussions about sex, and with millions of personal websites and blogs attracting enormous online followings, sex blogging has become one of the internet’s most controversial topics.

Whereas the majority of sex blogs are written about sexual health or offer advice on how to spice things up in the bedroom, some have very different authors – those who simply want to share graphic details of their own personal sexual encounters with a virtual audience.

An initial inspection shows a majority of these blogs appear to be authored by sex industry workers; escorts and call girls recounting incidents in their work whilst offering advice and support to those also working in the industry. However a percentage of X-rated blogs that have appeared on the internet in recent years are not penned by writers affiliated in any way with the sex industry, but by students with the desire to share their most personal exploits with anyone who happens to stumble upon their website.

Arguably the most famous of all sex blogs is that of Belle de Jour – real name Brooke Magnanti – in which she entertains  readers with graphic accounts of her experiences as a high-class escort in London. In order to fund her PhD studies Brooke worked as a £300-an-hour call girl: An amusing incident with a client inspired her to create her blog in which she penned her double life anonymously. The blog amassed an enormous readership and was subsequently published and turned into a hugely popular television series, Diary of a Call Girl starring Billie Piper.

The interest sparked by this particular blog indicated that we as a nation are indeed curious about others’ bedroom habits, especially those that are slightly less orthodox, with one particular episode of Diary of a Call Girl featuring a sexual encounter involving baked beans and equestrian role-play.

The LCF sex blogger

Brooke Magnanti is not the only student to have turned her sex blog into an online sensation. The ‘Oxbridge sex blogger’ claims to lift the lid on the sex life of an ‘Oxbridge’ student. The author remains completely anonymous refusing even to disclose as to whether she attends Oxford or Cambridge, referring to herself in one post as a “bit like a researcher of sex” and professing to having “a voracious appetite for sex.” Following media attention and subsequent interviews with the Guardian and Grazia, among several others; other copycat ‘Oxbridge’ sex blogs attempted to permeate the internet, achieving varying degrees of popularity.

A London College of Fashion graduate who writes under the pseudonym Jenna Victoria decided to write her own blog in which she recounts her sexual exploits and unlawful behaviour in graphic detail. “These frank sex stories demonstrate my lewd behaviour and reckless promiscuity, having the sole intention of shocking myself into realization,” reads the blurb.

“Initially, Tumblr was a platform for me to document the events of lewd nights so that I could reflect on them myself, but it rapidly became apparent that people enjoyed reading the stories and were eager to hear more.” This, explains Victoria, who confesses to having an “unequivocal love for sex”, is how her subsequent Twitter and Facebook accounts were created as the blog then turned into more of a ‘PR exercise’.

Although Jenna claims that the stories are all “true accounts of sexual encounters spanning from 2006, with most being more recent”, she does admit that “due to my intoxication for the duration of most of these events, the factual integrity of them is somewhat diminished.”

One of the more understandable appeals of sex blogging is the thrill of anonymity; an author can conceal their identity or create an alter-ego that friends, family and co-workers are oblivious to, allowing the writer to reveal all without the fear of any personal criticism. Victoria explains: “I only tell a few select friends, but people talk, especially when the subject matter is sex.”

Since creating her blog, Victoria says that she has been offered various writing jobs, initially sex related, such as writing the blog for a sex shop and reviewing sex toys.

Motivations for sex blogging aside, it is equally interesting to consider the appeal of sex blogs to their readership – is it 21st century eroticism? Or are we simply living in an age where over-sharing is the norm? More recently, a smartphone app titled ‘I Just Made Love’ was created enabling users to GPS tag locations in which they havemade love, and add comments and specific information. With over 22,000 ‘check-ins’ already active, it is at least apparent that as a global society we are now more willing than ever before to share our so-called ‘private lives’.